As a person, sometimes we had an excess desires. such as we don't have a sport car even we already had a family car, we don't have a blackberry even we already used nokia. or if we don't have any child even we already married for 10 years..
Actually this thinking is good for the motivation, so our live has a purpose. but don't make it become an obsession, cos it would be bad for your mind and and soul. you will push your body and get tired all the time to reach what your obsession are but it could stand it and it could be get sick or you'll to obsession and could do anything even it would broke the law
So...if you could do your obsession in a good way it's good for you, but if it all should be a destiny, just be graceful to what god already give to you. enjoy your live and always graceful to your god cos until this day we still breath and have a good health.
Tuesday, April 21, 2009
Just graceful to what you still have
What is the virginity?
For many people especially in East culture, virginity is very important. is a girl lose her virginity so her status become very disgraceful in community. so no wonder if indonesian women keep it so gently or she took to do an operated to become virgin than being disgraceful.
on the other hand, at West culture viginity becoming a taboo if a grown women still got her virgin. people will think that no one want her or or she is not a woman. even many she get disgraceful from her friends if they know bout it. they will think she is not popular or geeg.
this far is the difference and complex between east and west bout virginity, what is virginity actually? in medical it mean the torn of hymen from a woman because of something, so losing the virginity cold be a taboo or a mark that she already become a lady.
but the hymen can be torn not just because intimate relationship, such as sport like bike or another physical sport like gymnastic or karate because they used so many move and risk
so if a girl lost her virginity due an accident is the community has rights to judge her badly? or if she want to keep it just for her husband her friends have the right to disgraceful her? which one is more important? losing it cos an accident or still virgin even she got sleep with so many people but her hype didn't torn?
for me it all came from the heart. we can't judge no one if we don't know who she is and what do she want. she has the right to gives her virginity to anyone she want or she loved if she want to without thinking what people will think what she is. just educate her what will happen if she already give it to some and if she did not play save. educate them not just with the medical education but also with the religion. and let them choose what the best she can take.
Saturday, April 18, 2009
Indonesian's Election Celebrate Party part 1
This April Indonesia is celebrating a campaign for picking their representatives of the people in the parliament, because in Indonesia which is a Republic and the chosen one hopefully will hear the community voices in many problems.
But there are many different between this campaign and our usually. We had a campaign since 1955 and we had 172 Political party, but we got fakum bout 16 years. In new decade (or in Indonesians Orde Baru) we start it again and this time the Political party get smaller, just 3 in 1971. when we had a reformation decade in 1999 the political party getting larger again, there are 48 political party and Indonesia takes the watcher from inside and out the country. But Indonesian people really can show their aspirations in 2004 and 2009 cos we really can choose who will be come our aspiration in the parliament, but not just that we really can choose our President and Vice President. This year there are 38 political party and 6 local political party in Aceh
But what should be a good one become a difficuld from many person. Cos so many person and political party we can choose so people get more confuse who we shold choose. in 1 political party there are minimum 3 person who candidate theirself and we don't really know them and what their purpose for us.
And another weaknes bout this campaign is so many people couldn't get join the election cos their name didn't list in the election places, so they can used their rights, bout more than 1 million can't used their right cos of it and they really unhappy. They blame it to the goverment but the goverment throw their responsibility to the institutions who responsibillities bout the election.
Even thou we hope this election part 1 will be come sucsess. cos we should still prepare our election part 2, that we should choose our presiden nad vice for the next 5 year.
Tuesday, April 7, 2009
i'm single and very happy
Is it wrong to become single? most people maybe it becoming a big problem because of the culture, religion, or their needs. especially in east culture like where i live, being a single is a big problem, even it become a big issue
lots people thing become a widow is much better than never get married at all, at least u've been married but get fail otherwise never get married at all as no one ever wants you, but in east culture like Indonesia becoming a widow is worse than an old virgin. Community will harassing you just because you are a widow cos they afraid if you will take their husband or at lease tempt theirs. because if you are a widow so you already know the favors of making love,and you will search it even you know it's a sin. But if you are a virgin so you will keep it until you get married. you won't care with who you can get the favor, with a single too or with someone who already married. So house wife will get more fear if you are a widow than an old virgin
But, is it wrong becoming a single? if single is an option for some people how the community can judge them. Some single maybe don't want to being a single, they still have dream to get someone who really love him/her, who adore her, the one who can make them feel save and complete but they don't find him/her, or some people really don't need some one in their live cos they already feel complete. but community will think if they are a gay even they just wanna to be alone for a while. Especially if it concern with ages, is it wrong being single if you are still a single even you are old?
So guys..whoever you are...and if you still single don't be scare, just don't care about what people think. If you enjoy for who you are right now just enjoy it without afraid what people will think bout you, cos who ever you are is you are, sometimes if you really comfortable with who you are now so everyone who look at you will get comfortable too.
Pamela Anderson VS Rachael Ray
Nice 2 see u again, I hope you are not bored by reading my opinions... This time there is a topic I want to discuss ... About men and women
The most common but the most complex problems to search for this topic .. the conclution suddenly just flash in my mind after I read a novel about men and women ... Harlequin title of "Gentlemen Prefer Brunettes ..." from the Liz Fielding.
This story is interesting, funny, unique, and encourage all of us .. I, and it's not secret anymore men is more interested with a blond girl,skins so smooth, high slim, straight leg, (sorry) and a certain kind of breast and buttocks big but do not forget a small waist without fat .. well such as Nicole Kidman and Pamela Anderson, and men's illusion that the woman artis earlier as there will always be at home, welcome them when they at home, cook food every day, wash and clean the house and they always smile every time they arrived at the house .. well boys you can not get it all
Let make it simple, the model is want to wash clothes or kitchen equipment without fear of their broken nails, how they can still be pretty when she spend her time all along in the kitchen without wearing make up, what their bodies can remain slim if a few must try dishes that will serve them (the man) .. But we, women as if could be prosecuted for all the men want ... As if we should be able to realize what they dream of ...
I can talk like this because i am far, far away from the body or face model, so this is really becoming a serious thought ... What we (women) must follow men's wishes and desires when it so difficult to be we will be sad and self-parenthesize ? Indeed, what do the men want? A display in the house, which is always nice to be tough, or someone who can become a partner in their life? someone who can make them spend the day quietly until the end of life or a mannequin that is does not matter about comfortable hearts each other but only care bout material? Well for hair and nail care costs doesn't cheap ..
Well guys or girls ... I really need your opinion about this .. at least your advice so we can view our lives a couple of us actually want .. a person who has body like Pamela Anderson or figure in the novel Gentlemen Prefer Brunettes ... Cassandra Cornwell, a recipe cookbook author cooking, has a personality as a mother did not have the body, such as the blond and brown models. Such a figure like Rachel Ray.
the miracle in the disaster
I live in Indonesia, a country that has always override the disasters be fatal to humans that are not few, but in the midst of disasters that occur can be tough when a miracle in thought with the logic will not make sense.
First we hardened the tsunami in Aceh in December 2004, the sea water crash most of the city in Aceh, many houses buildings and facilities destroyed by the lunge of the sea water at more than 13 meters, but in the middle of the building that was destroyed with the average land have a strong building that is not hack at all by the tsunami mosque in Meulaboh and Aceh Besar.
Also In Pangandaran west Java. Large-scale earthquake and tsunami flatten buildings around the mosque but it still standing upright in the middle of the building with the flat land.
And it continuous that happen again flood or little tsunami it can be spelled out in the small southern Tangerang Situ Gintung Banten, 1 mosque remain standing upright, although the location is only about 50 meters from natural sources, namely destruction buffer Situ Gintung there, all the houses in around mosque was destroyed but still standing upright as if ready to protect the human perspective indeed need help.
What is actually able to make these mosques can still stand upright? If we are tough, the structure of the mosque not too far different from the houses and other facilities, but why the others were destroyed but the mosques are still strong and only slightly in the destruction of the suffering, only Allah SWT is a response, and we especially me as the Islamic religion can only say Subhanallah and must recognize the greatness and power of Allah SWT, Allah SWT is the couses of it if will and it will happen ..